This whole concept of dating-turned-career is the result of a bad break-up and my friend’s determination to get me back into the dating game. As I flipped through the pages of The Rules, He’s Not That Into You, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, I realized that the rules of dating are amazingly applicable to the world of work. Playing Hard to Get, Being Willing to Walk Away, Not Giving Your Milk (work) Away for Free, these are the basic tenants of garnering respect and leverage at the office.
This is one of my favorite books in that it’s a fun way of approaching career and I’m always looking for ways to make the subject less sleepy—both for you to read and me to write. The other amazing thing about this book is that it was optioned by Dan Jinks and Bruce Cohen, the guys (and Academy Award Winners) who produced American Beauty, Milk, and Silver Linings Playbook just to name a few. This option has been extended again and again. When asked why it’s taking so long, I’ve been told to not get my knickers in a twist, a fictional rendition of this concept will take a while. Stay tuned!
Here are some other chapter/rules that I cover in the book:
“The price of self-destiny is never cheap and in certain circumstances it’s unthinkable. But to achieve the marvelous it’s precisely the unthinkable that must be thought.”
I was with my friends (the same friends who gave me the dating books) on a beach in Mexico, and with the added kick of a margarita, I wrote down a list of my unthinkables (highly recommend this exercise). At the top of the list was a six-figure book advance from the largest publishing house in the world. I made that my quest (a theme in the book) and essentially all the tips and tricks I used to make that goal a reality are in this book and can be applied to any and all career goals.
While Girl on Top was the most fun to write (and probably to read) I think this book contains the most practical advice. I go back to this book time and again to review the advice (that I often need to be reminded of), and it stands the test of time.
Here are a few of the themes I tackle in this book:
I was just finishing writing Wildly Sophisticated when my agent called and said we needed to pitch another book concept right away. At that point, a book was the last thing I wanted to work on. Writing was way harder than I expected and the thought of pulling another 70,000 words from my thoroughly exhausted brain was beyond me. My agent came back to me a few weeks later after talking to the publisher and said, “They’re interested in a book on money.” Now this was kinda funny, because I’m a spender, not a saver. I took the weekend to think about it. I came back with an outline of what I would be willing to write about and this is what the book became:
Let’s be honest. We’re all doing it… and if we’re not, we’re thinking about doing it.
You spend 70% of your waking life at the office…you should love what you do!